My #adhd super power is randomly making small but quite important objects vanish completely, never to be seen again.
In other news, if anyone has any idea where my comb might be, please let me know. Last remembered in the dish rack by the sink because it needed a wash, and I have a vague recollection of taking it out to put back and... maybe putting it on a flat surface? But it's not on any of them. It's not under or behind any of them.
Help!
My last three (3) braincells attempting to decide what I’m doing today.
One of them is autism, one of them is ADHD, and the other is the desire to not do anything productive at all. I think the dogs that are fighting are autism and ADHD, and the woman screaming is my desire to not do anything productive at all. The woman just wants to sit and watch more trash TV until some form of inspiration hits, and then she’ll do something. Except there are two huge dogs going goblin mode in front of her 
This is my current mood. I’ve been resting a lot because my guts still hurt off and on, and honestly watching TV that I like is helping my brain rest and get more inspiration for my writing in the long term. Plus, as Laz has said before, it’s nice to be able to be a fan of things again. It’s been years since we’ve been able to do that.
Aside from this post and talking to people, will I get anything else productive done? I’m not sure. But I’ll do my best if I’m so inspired.
-Allēna
The hardest part about unmasking is developing the courage and resilience to act against the interest of another person (usually by upholding a personal boundary you've ignored so far) and to then strike the right balance in determining who deserves an explanation (because they actually want to listen) and who is a lost cause and just wants you to admit that you're wrong.
It's a really odd thing to go through when so far you've tried to please everyone. Who are you to put your judgement over the judgement of other people?
I'm against the death penalty out of principle. This article goes exactly into the ambiguity of why: why do we grant anyone the authority to end a life?
https://slate.com/news-and-politics/2025/03/autism-idaho-university-capital-murder-defense.html
#neurodivergent #neurodivergence #neuroqueer #ADHD #actuallyADHD #Autism #autistic #actuallyAutistic #AuDHD #actuallyAuDHD @actuallyautistic @actuallyaudhd
ASMR audio is the absolute worst media trend (aside from fake news obviously). It’s actually physically painful and rage inducing… please make it stop. 
Nothing shakes your feeling of stability like reviewing your internet browsing history of a single day. (Me, recently diagnosed as an AuDHDer).
Nawwwwwwwww, EVERYONE flitters through 30 very different topics in a single calendar day. Right? Right??
@actuallyadhd @actuallyautistic #ActuallyADHD #ActuallyAutistic
Hot take:
Masking mostly only exists for the sake of neurotypicals' comfort, and letting them go about life without putting in any work interacting with neurodivergent people, allowing them to in the back of their minds basically pretend we don't exist.
It's a special accommodation for the majority.
Neurotypicals get all this accommodation, expect all this accommodation, for our mere existence, and we get none for our actual difficulties and disabilities. This is bad; it ought to be the other way around.
Reposting some pics, jokes, quotes, and other stuff I've collected over the past year or so for the people who haven't seen them yet. Well and it might be fun for those that have anyway. 
I think that this one would work for adhd people too.
#ActuallyAutistic @actuallyautistic #ActuallyADHD @actuallyadhd #AuDHD #ActuallyAuDHD
I think I need to start using the laundromat to do my laundry despite the fact I have laundry at home. I cannot for the life of me seem to get it right at home. I forget to change it over so I end up washing loads multiple times, I do things like put too many clothes in the dryer, I forget to check it to see if the clothes are actually dry before thinking it's done... and TODAY I have completely fucked the timeline of my day because when I went to take out my laundry thinking it was done... it was still very damp because I put too many clothes in the dryer.
I hate to spend money on laundry that I don't need to, but I seriously fuck up the laundry EVERY SINGLE TIME I do it at home. If I take it to the laundromat, I don't have this problem because laundry becomes a contained task that's being actively attended to, not a task that's happening in the background at home that will get forgotten.
Flibble, flabble.
No idea where that came from or what it means. Though, I'm wondering if that's the sound of my spoon tank & dice chamber when they're both completely empty 
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Maybe I should send an SOS?
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Great now I've given myself an earworm 
, where is @scream when you need them?
Thanks Sting & your 'sending out an SOS'.
@cybervegan @bughuntercat @actuallyautistic @pathfinder That does seem to be the case; my partner is #ActuallyADHD and I am #ActuallyAuDHD, and we totally recognized each other from about 2800 miles (4506 km) apart, over a skype call. We tweeted for the longest time back and forth. My social awkwardness meant that it was about 3-4 years before we actually spoke again, and when we did, we never looked back. At first I saw us as chosen siblings, but then I had zero experience with such things. Within 4 months, I came to visit her, and thus began some of the best weeks of my life, as we hung out, goofed off, and generally had an outright blast, and I finally let down some of my masking for a time. When I went home, it felt wrong somehow, like something was missing, something was off. As she was still working at the time, and I could afford to make it happen, it was I who moved in with her in May of 2014, and it was at that time we realized we weren't just siblings, but a couple. Unconventional, perhaps, but we loved each other more than anything, more than just family. We were two halves of a whole. It's 11 years later, and we couldn't imagine life without the other.
TL;DR: if you wanna be a better person practice to wait a second every time you feel angry/scared/"other strong emotion" before you act. Just one second! Then think "what do I wanna do now?" and you will be able to think of better options. Better than the option you would have chosen if you didn't wait that second.
BOOM! Congrats, you're a better person than a second ago.
7/6
Usually it's some form of worthiness wound that pushes us to self-defense. Something we learned in our pasts that still lingers and makes us think "I am unworthy/unlovable/broken". We don't *want* to believe it but what if they're right?
When we are hit by words that feed into that belief, that insecurity, then we must push that possibility away. We are not like that! We cannot be!
1/6
> The foreword to the landmark 1980 DSM-III was appropriately modest and acknowledged that this diagnostic system was imprecise - so imprecise that it never should be used for forensic or insurance purposes. As we will see, that modesty was tragically short-lived.
- The Body Keeps the Score (p. 33) by Bessel Van der Kolk
WHAT THE FUCK?! EXCUSE ME?! THE DSM DID _WHAT_?!
And yet here we are. LOLOLOLOLOL
If I come across anyone who invalidates self-diagnosis again then I'm gonna smack them with this quote so hard that they get knocked out of our solar system. -Vox
#neurodivergent #DSM #psychology #psychiatry #diagnosis #selfDiagnosis #ADHD #actuallyADHD #autism #autistic #actuallyAutistic #AuDHD #actuallyAuDHD #plural #plurality #actuallyPlural @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd @actuallyaudhd
I know it’s scary as a #trans / #transgender individual in the US right now. But just remember that just SURVIVING in these times demonstrates so much resilience and hope. You are capable. You are loved. You are important.
#lgbtq
#lgbt
#lgbtqia
#transrightsarehumanrights
#TransRights
#disability
#disabled
#neurodivergent
#disabilityrights
#disabilityjustice
#autism
#actuallyautistic
#actuallyadhd
#mentalhealth
#love
#positivity
What are your favorite books or resources on how to live with Adult ADHD, Neurodivergence.
There seems to be encouraging research on executive skills training, any thoughts on this?
Asking for myself (likely Cognitive Disengagement Syndrome / Sluggish Cognitive Tempo) and for my counseling practice clients.
Pls boost for visibility
#ADHD #AdultADHD #Neurodivergence #ExecutiveFunction #ActuallyAutistic #ActuallyADHD #BookRecommendation #AskFedi
(tagging @adelinej @FractalEcho @dramypsyd)
I had an #autistic moment last week that resulted in ripped trousers, damaged jacket and a cut finger. I am hideously embarrassed by this, an attempt to bypass a downed fence across a path I regularly use. I’m saying so here in an attempt to remove some power from it. The jacket is being repaired, the trousers demoted to ‘decorating wear’ (as if I’ll ever decorate) and the finger, slightly infected, but now healing. 
Just tryna love myself and move on.
How are you doing? 
@actuallyautistic #ActuallyAutistic #ActuallyADHD @actuallyadhd #AuDHD @actuallyaudhd
I just hurt the person I love because I am overstimulated and snapped at them while they themselves were wrestling with complex emotions.
I apologized and let them know it was not their fault but man, I wish it'd be easier to recognize when I'm reaching my limit. It's frustrating to notice after the fact that I wasn't in any condition to navigate any kind of conflict because then it's obviously too late. Haven't quite figured that one out yet and I gather I never will entirely. So all I have are accountability and self-compassion.
Reminder that it is okay to just exist sometimes. You don't always need to do. I forget this sometimes and my mental health usually erodes when I don't.
of oslo.town 
