The hardest part about unmasking is developing the courage and resilience to act against the interest of another person (usually by upholding a personal boundary you've ignored so far) and to then strike the right balance in determining who deserves an explanation (because they actually want to listen) and who is a lost cause and just wants you to admit that you're wrong.
It's a really odd thing to go through when so far you've tried to please everyone. Who are you to put your judgement over the judgement of other people?